​Once, I fell in love with a guy, he was smart, ambitious, polite, handsome and charming. It was hard not to fall head over knees for him, I will call him Mr. Maybe. During that time, I tried convincing myself that he was doing all he could do to love me and i was trying to give it all, but I knew I was lying to myself because I always felt something was lacking, like he could do more or give more but something was just impeding him from doing so. For the longest time I made excuses for him, until I just decided that I was done with Mr. Maybe and all his maybes.
Let me tell you exactly what it feels like to fall in love with Mr maybe :-
– “Maybe” he is down for meet this weekend, depending on whether or not he will be done with all his other priorities. 

-“Maybe” he is free at 10 PM to call you and chat for a bit.

– “Maybe” he is dating someone else, or studying or just hanging out with friends or attending stupid boyz batchlor party.

– “Maybe” he is listening to you when you are talking , a personal issue.

– “Maybe” he supports your dreams and passions that’s why thinks it is crucial to drop relationship and pursue them. 

-“Maybe” he really is too busy.   

– “Maybe” he cares but doesn’t know how to show it.

– “Maybe” he is just stressed out with workload and that is why he hasn’t been making any effort.

– “Maybe” he needs you in his life, but he is emotionally unavailable.

-“Maybe” he didn’t mean to ignore you when you told him you miss him.

– “Maybe” he needs space because he is just overwhelmed with college works and his family issues.

– “Maybe” he didn’t hear you when you said you loved him that night.

– “Maybe” he doesn’t know how to be loved because he isn’t used to receiving that kind of love.

– “Maybe” he didn’t mean to let you go when you were fighting with him.

– “Maybe” he got wrapped up in something that he forgot to call you back.

– “Maybe” he really didn’t like your profile picture, or your article or your status update.

-“Maybe” he loves you but actually not sure of his feeling. 

– “Maybe” he is just not ready.
The list of Mr. Maybe’s “maybes” can go on forever, these are just a few examples of how love can blind people into settling for “maybes” when they know better, and they know that “maybe” is just another word for explicating that you are just not that important to him to try harder. Mr. Maybe and I remained good friends for some reason. He once asked me if we’ll ever meet, I would just like him to know that the day we meet , I will be meeting the guy who was sure of all his “maybes”. I will be meeting the guy who knew that when it comes to me, there should be no “maybes”. I will be meeting the guy who has never been sure of anything more than this, more than me, more than wanting to spend that time with me. But to answer his question, will he ever get to meet me? Maybe!

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